What is psychological trauma?
A trauma is a strong, persistent, negative emotional response to a past event, or reminders of it.
- A trauma is not an experience. It is an emotional response to an experience. If the emotional response is positive, the experience is not traumatic, no matter how harrowing its sensory details. (Think of all the people who pay money to have scary, dangerous experiences such as white-water rafting!)
In the video link below, Tom Stone of Great Life Technologies demonstrates a quick and simple method for quickly resolving PTSD and emotional traumas.
Tom Stone’s process for eliminating PTSD
From my analysis of Tom’s video, the steps are:
- Elicit the trauma/PTSD state enough to get a reaction. (The client must be able to feel the reaction to do the process.)
- Have the client verify that they can feel the problem response in their body.
Today I’m going to remind you of a simple NLP pattern that can help you:
- Make friends and keep them
- Become more popular and attractive to others
- Get dates and keep partners
- Reduce conflict and negativity in your life
- Get more support from others
- Keep people around you happier
You already know this skill. You learned it during NLP training, and use it during interventions.
But you probably haven’t generalized it to everyday life. (Most NLPers don’t.) This subtle shift in language can make a big difference.Continue reading
This is an NLP modeling, research, and development blog. In a previous post I defined NLP modeling. In future articles, I’ll write about my process for modeling, and reveal modeling tips and tricks. Today, I discuss how NLP and modeling relate.
What is NLP?
When most people talk about NLP, they mean:
- NLP techniques, such as anchoring, pacing and leading, and the Fast Phobia Cure;
- NLP applications, such as applying rapport skills to sales; and/or
- NLP models, such as timelines and eye access cues.
However, I and most NLP developers regard another aspect of NLP as more important:
- NLP modeling, NLP’s process for figuring out the specifics of how someone does a skill in enough detail that other people can achieve similar results.
As an NLP modeler, I’ve learned to ask “How do people do that?” about nearly everything. Often the most mundane, taken-for-granted behaviors yield the most surprising and intriguing results.
Unresourcefulness, for example. It’s not surprising that people can get unresourceful when they have no clue how to do something, or have failed in the past. Especially if the task or project is important, or has large consequences.
It is surprising that people get unresourceful about skills they know they can do, and have done successfully many times before.Continue reading
How a person structures “now” on their timeline has a big effect on their quality of life. Two important distinctions about now are:
- the degree to which the person is “in time” or “observing time”, and
- the physical size of “now.”
If now is physically small, the person is likely to feel pressured or harassed, as though there is literally not enough time to get things done.
If now is spacious, they are likely to experience of having plenty of time, even when they have a lot to do and not much actual time available.
If now is enormous, the future may seem irrelevant because it is so small and far away. This works well for meditating, but can cause significant problems in day-to-day life.Continue reading
Dr. Lewis Walker, author Changing with NLP: A Casebook of Neuro-Linguistic Programming in Medical Practice, recently wrote:
I think that when someone has had a longstanding chronic problem over many years, in virtually all areas of life there are huge numbers of contextual anchors (people, places, color schemes, sounds, voice tones, postures, gestures, etc.) that keep it alive… Chronic re-exposure to these myriad anchors after a session is one way in which the problem can recur over time to a varying degree…
I have experienced this anchor issue myself in making major life changes. It’s a big problem for a lot of people.Continue reading
How a person structures “now” on their timeline has a big effect on their quality of life.
- If they are in time, with their timeline running through their body (or they stand inside a “time tube”), they are probably good at being present in the moment. However, they may stay so in the moment that they have trouble keeping appointments or planning ahead.
- If they observe time, standing outside the “now” so they have perspective and can see the future from now, they can probably remember appointments and plan ahead. However, they might find it difficult to enjoy the moment because they always see, hear, and think about their future and/or past.
Each option has useful elements, and it would be nice to have them all, rather than having to pick one or the other. That’s why I developed the following technique.Continue reading
When you studied NLP, did you learn about “the” kinesthetic modality?
The standard NLP model lumps all “feelings” together as one kinesthetic modality, with one set of accessing cues. These cues include belly breathing, slow speech, use of kinesthetic words and phases (such as “touching base,” “off-balance,” and “warm”), and eye accesses to the (usually) lower right.
This model is simple and easy to learn and use. It’s also obviously inaccurate. Dizziness is not the same kind of “feeling” as happiness, hunger, or warm velvet rubbing across your skin.
That wouldn’t matter to NLPers if kinesthetics all functioned identically when communicating or doing change work. But in fact, subtle distinctions between kinds of kinesthetics often determine whether an intervention will work for a particular person.Continue reading